In our high-pressure society, we’re constantly fed lies about individualism, exceptionalism, determination and ingenuity. We are taught to grin and bear it, believe in no pain, no gain and that hard work always pays off, even though success is inherently unpredictable. In The Perfectionist’s Dilemma, psychologist Tara Cousineau explores how perfectionism is a paradox. Learn how you can transform perfectionist habits by connecting to both your head and heart, and replace comparison and criticism with self-compassion.
What every perfectionist needs to know
In The Perfectionist’s Dilemma, Cousineau introduces an innovative six-step solution based on the acronym EVOLVE:
- Embody the present moment.
- Validate your experience.
- Open your heart.
- Love your inner critic.
- Make a vow
- Spark energy of excellence
To help readers overcome perfectionism and cultivate three essential resources—inner worth, inner humanity and inner leadership. Through storytelling and anecdotes from recovering perfectionists who have participated in Cousineau’s workshops, readers can learn to align mind, body, heart and spirit—to become happy achievers.
Who is “The Perfectionist’s Dilemma” for?
The Perfectionist’s Dilemma is for high achievers, business professionals, entrepreneurs, academics and those striving to make a meaningful impact. It’s especially for those who feel perfectionism is holding them back. This book targets driven individuals who find themselves stuck in cycles of self-criticism, overwork, or self-doubt.
The book explores how perfectionism affects both personal and professional well-being. Cousineau provides insights and strategies to replace self-criticism with self-compassion. She helps readers align their ambitions with a balanced, fulfilling approach to life. It is particularly useful for individuals seeking to achieve their goals without compromising their peace of mind or well-being.
Single most important takeaway:
You don’t have to choose between excellence and joy—you can have both.
Meet the author
Tara Cousineau is an author, clinical psychologist, meditation teacher and coach with over 20 years of experience in helping high achievers become their best selves with ease and confidence.
Dr. Tara works with individuals, groups and organizations to cultivate inner worth, inner humanity and inner leadership for a better world. She is a part-time staff psychologist at Harvard University’s Counseling and Mental Health Services. Dr. Tara is trained in mind-body medicine, mindfulness and mindful self-compassion. She also practices innovative psychological methods, including energy psychology and Internal Family Systems. She has authored two books: The Perfectionist’s Dilemma: Learn the Art of Self-Compassion and Become a Happy Achiever (Alcove Press, Jan 2025) and The Kindness Cure: How the Science of Compassion Can Heal Your Heart and Your World (2018/2024).
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