Should men avoid dating professional women nearing their 40s?
Posted on September 12, 2014 by Kristina Baker
I just came across a recent post on LearnWomen.com and wow was I shocked! The post said men should avoid dating women, who are professional, career women nearing their 40s. WHAT? That’s me.
It goes on to say professional women delay the notion of a husband, marriage or kids and focus on their careers. Girls’ night or weekend fun is just that – time for fun, not for finding a man. Men just aren’t their priority at that given time.
As I keep reading I find myself slightly appalled but then think “this is kind of me.” I didn’t jump into being a “professional, career woman” but just found myself that way. I wasn’t finding a suitable partner and when I had one he wasn’t the one for me in the end; I wouldn’t compromise my future for someone who was cheating on me. So yes, I threw myself into my work, then got laid off and went back to school. I found myself starting over at age 32 after earning an MBA and moving to Georgia for a new career.
I wanted something a little more stable versus consulting in a new town so found a job, started paying my bills and then realized I work a lot, which left little time for a man. As you know I pondered the “do I make time or wait” concepts.
Well, as luck would have it, for all the times I said I would put dating aside, I let Tinder show back up on my phone and much to my surprise met a wonderful guy and have been dating him for a bit. I couldn’t be happier.
I’ve discussed the realities of dating a professional, career woman with the man I’m seeing. He’s my age, divorced with two kids. Naturally, certain questions arose such as “why am I still single?” and whether or not I’d like to be a stay-at-home mom. I have resided to answer the latter question the best I can right now, “I want to work but until I have kids I won’t know how I feel.”
I feel a little different from the women “described” in the article. They say professional, career women are men trapped in women’s bodies, who’re not very feminine. If you knew or saw me, I wear a dress almost anywhere and my roommate can attest I sometimes come home and clean or cook in my work dress and heels and I am happy to do so.
Professional, career women are also not nurturing, according to LearnWomen.com. It’s another item to cross off on the list for me, as I am a mother figure. I like to make sure everyone is happy and help wherever I can to make sure everyone is well. When I get around my friend’s children I kick into “mommy/aunty” mode and someday hope to have my own little ones to watch over.
Where I tend to be similar to this type of woman – I have a hard time letting someone else take the lead or take care of me. However, I am dating a southern gentleman who opens doors, car doors included, and he likes to treat me like a lady so I am learning to sit back and let him lead. (I haven’t opened a door in I don’t know how long!)
Like the article, I am also Type A and due to the nature of my life have become independent but I’m learning day by day to become dependent on someone and I hate to admit it, it is a wonderful feeling to know someone supports you 100 percent.
Much unlike the article though, I do enjoy sex and not just because I want a baby. I enjoy sex because it is something special and should be cherished and enjoyed with the right person in a safe manner.
While I’m still partly shocked by this article I am realizing I do not exactly fit into this category and I do hope men, and my guy, realize just because we are in our 30s it doesn’t mean we chose career over marriage. We chose a career because we didn’t want to compromise our futures just to find the loves of our lives..
For more on this article, visit LearnWomen.com.
Until next time…
Update … Kristina has since married since this article has been published.
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